How to Play Alone: Best Tips for Masturbation
Even if they don’t talk about it, most people you know masturbate, and it’s pretty common for people of any age or gender.
Masturbating is a great way to learn about your body and what you like and don’t like when it comes to sexuality. It can also help you sleep better, improve your sex life, relieve menstrual cramps, and maybe even help with migraines.
What does it mean to masturbate and enjoy yourself?
Masturbating is when you touch yourself for pleasure. That’s the simplest way to describe it. Some people do it all the time, while others never do. It’s a personal choice, and there’s no “normal” way to do it. You should do what feels right to you.
You might already masturbation, but you might not be happy with it, or you might be having trouble orgasming, or you might be wondering if you could improve your techniques. Here are some tips for making masturbation as pleasurable as possible.
How to get horny
Setting the mood to masturbate might seem like overkill, but it’s an important way to let your brain relax and go with the flow. Spending time making an atmosphere that makes you feel relaxed and sensual could be the key to discovering new desires.Try some of these ideas to help set the tone.
- Find a place where no one will bother you. You won’t be able to focus on having an orgasm if you’re afraid someone will walk in on you. If you know you’re in a private place, you can explore your body without worrying about being interrupted.
- Just adjust the lights. Some people find it very exciting to see their body while they masturbate, so we recommend turning the lights down to a soft glow.
- Play some music. It’s easy to get off track and lose focus when you’re thinking about work or your never-ending list of things to do. Music can help you relax and get in the mood for self-pleasure, so make a running playlist of songs that help you get in the mood. You could also use apps like Dipsea to listen to audio erotica.
- Read or watch some erotica. Reading erotic stories can be a great way to get excited about touching yourself before you actually do it. You could also watch porn to see your favourite fantasy played out. There are a lot of great, legal porn sites that have everything from movies to content made in people’s homes. When you watch “ethical porn,” you can enjoy yourself and be sure that the stars were treated well.
- Keep a sexual toy on hand. Even if you don’t think you’re going to use it, keep your favourite sex toy close by so you can reach for it if the mood strikes.
- Get some lubricant (lube). Lube can keep things running smoothly and make things more enjoyable. Even if you don’t usually have problems with self-lubricating, it’s good to have around.
- Get a mirror. If you like masturbating, watching yourself do it can be a great way to get even more into it. It also helps you figure out what you like in bed, so you can tell future partners what you want.
- Take your time. Don’t forget, it’s not a race. Take your time and pay attention to how your body reacts to each touch and movement. Think of it as your chance to learn more about yourself. This will not only make you feel better, but it might also make your sex life with a partner better. Also, keep in mind that you might not always get an orgasm, so don’t put too much pressure on yourself. The main goal is to find out what makes you feel good.
Masturbation techniques
Trying out different ways to masturbation can help you figure out what you like and what you don’t. We are all different, and we like different things. If you always do it the same way, why not try something different? You might be surprised at how good it feels.
Clitoral masturbation
Did you know that there are more nerve endings in the clitoris than in any other part of the body? That means it reacts very strongly to touch.
Researchers used to think it was about the size of a pea and that it was at the top of the vulva, but we now know that it’s much bigger than that. Only part of the clitoris can be seen. The rest is inside the body, and the clitoral hood keeps it from rubbing against things it shouldn’t.
The clitoris is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones, and clitoral stimulation is one of the most common ways that people with one say they can get an orgasm.
To masturbate with clitoral stimulation, you could start by massaging the outer lips of the vulva, then move on to the inner lips. When you feel ready, go to your clitoris and rub, stroke, or tap it. Try moving your strokes in circles, up and down, and from side to side. If something feels good, you should look into it. As you get closer to orgasm, you may want to speed up or put more pressure on the movements.
Using a vibrator is another great way to stimulate the clitoris. You can change the settings on many vibrators to find a setting you like. People have different sexual tastes, so what works for you might not work at all for someone else. Fortunately, sex toys can meet most needs. Some bullet vibrators make you feel good by vibrating, while others mimic oral stimulation or make you feel like you’re sucking.
Vaginal masturbation
Before you put anything in your vagina, make sure to massage the area. Use a lot of lube. Slowly put one or two fingers in, or a sex toy, and move them in and out. Move your fingers from side to side or in a circle to see what happens.
Once you’re comfortable, look on the upper vaginal wall for your erogenous zone. It’s likely to be rough and bumpy. Once you find it, stroke it with the tips of your fingers in a “come here” motion.
Anal masturbation
Using a lot of silicone-based lube is a must if you want to try out anal play. Start by massaging the area around the anal opening. As you get more excited, move closer to the opening. Using your fingers or a sex toy and lots of lube, go in and out of the anal opening in a circular motion.
As the pleasure builds, you can move faster and apply more pressure.
Some sex toys, like butt plugs and anal beads, are made specifically for anal play. We recommend that you never put anything in your anus that doesn’t have a flared base or a loop handle. Don’t put anything in your vagina after using anal.
Combination masturbation
When you do combination masturbation, you stimulate both your clitoris and your vagina at the same time. You can combine masturbation with your hands or with sex toys. Do whatever works for you and makes you feel good.
Start by massaging your inner and outer labia, and then move on to your clitoris. When you’re ready, keep stimulating your clitoris as you enter your vagina. This mix gives a lot of people very intense orgasms.
Change things up and try different speeds, touches, and pressures to find what you like. When it comes to masturbation, there is no “normal,” so just go with the flow and see where it takes you.
Erogenous zones
- Ears
- Lips
- Neck
- Breasts or chest
- Pubic mound
- Butt
- Feet
You’d be surprised what a big impact a little touch can have on other parts of your body. Don’t be afraid to explore; it’s a great way to discover what turns you on.
Other masturbation tips
Once you find a masturbation method you like, it’s tempting to use it every time because you know it will “get the job done.” But you can enjoy things even more if you try new things.
If you usually masturbate on your back, try lying on your stomach, sitting on your knees, or even standing up. If your shower or bath has a handheld showerhead, point it at your clitoris and play with the temperature of the water. Be careful not to shoot the water right into your vagina. Little steps that get you out of your comfort zone will show you how to enjoy your body in new ways.
Masturbation and solo sex can also involve sex toys, which can be a great way to make masturbation more fun. There are thousands of sex toys on the market, and they come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. If you want to find the best one for you, you might want to look online.
Lube is a must-have no matter what kind of masturbation you like or if you use your hands or a sex toy. People mistakenly think that lube can only be used with a partner or for anal sex. However, using lube when masturbating will cut down on friction and increase pleasure.
There are many kinds of lubes on the market, from those made with water to those made with silicone. You can find them in pharmacies or online. You can even use an oil that comes from nature, like coconut oil. Just remember that oils shouldn’t be used with latex condoms because they break down latex and could cause the condom to break. They can also leave marks on sheets and blankets.
Masturbation and gender identity
Getting naked while in a relationship
If you’re in a relationship and you masturbate, it doesn’t mean that your partner isn’t giving you what you want. In fact, it’s a great way to find out what you like and tell or show your partner about it. Talking to a partner about masturbation can also be exciting, and some couples even do it together.
Mutual masturbation can mean either masturbating with a partner or making your partner happy while he or she makes you happy. This is a great way to show your partner how you like to be touched, and it could also be a way to start other sexual activities.
Masturbation: The takeaway
If you want an exciting, safe, and sexy way to explore your body and your desires, masturbation is for you. But when it comes to pleasing yourself, be kind and gentle with yourself and stop trying to set goals.
Masturbation is good for you. It can help you find out what turns you on and can help improve your overall sex life. And anything that encourages you to explore your body in a way that makes you feel good is a good thing.